Step I: Either remember a time, notice your present sexual experience, or have a sexual fantasy.
Step II: Turn your attention away from the sexual fantasy and notice where in your body you are experiencing sexual sensations.
Step III: Experience the size and shape of the sexual feelings.
Step IV: De-label the sexual energy, seeing it as energy and merge with it.
Step V: Feel your skin boundaries as being made of the same energy as the "sexual" energy.
Step VI: Experience the air, the room, the floor, your chair, the rest of the universe including your thoughts as being made of the same energy.
If you have sexual fantasies (I know none of you do, but if you do) focus your attention on the sexual fantasy, or the story or the object of your sexual fantasy. Your mind is creating impressions of the sexual fantasy in some form or other. When I was celibate for about five years, I noticed that during the first three years I was going through incredible fantasies. Since the fantasies were still there, so were the bodily sensations. I had a difficult time for three years. All of a sudden I started to practice, and the practice changed my focus from putting my awareness on the fantasy to putting it on the energy itself. Where do I feel it? It's exactly the same as all of the E-motional issues, except that now we're working with a more "pleasant" one.
Rather than focusing on the story and trying to fulfill it outside of you, begin to observe that energy. This again simply means moving your attention away from the sexual fantasy into the energy itself. It's energy. It's not good or bad, right or wrong. It's energy.
I remember saying to an Indian teacher that I was having problems with my second chakra, (which is normally described as the sexual center in the body.) He said, "Only one chakra energy." It' s all energy, only the mind wants to compartmentalize it and label it into chakras, higher and lower, etc.
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