Quantum Psychology and the New

The question often arises in workshops about beliefs creating external events. I have had New Agers who believe they create external events happening to them because of the beliefs they hold to be true. Quantum Psychology is very different than New Age Schools, which imagine that because I have a particular belief, "Nobody likes me," that I will therefore attract people to me who don't like me to re-enforce my, "Nobody likes me." Quantum Psychology states that the belief part-(icle) "Nobody likes me," acts as a filter and only creates that experience subjectively, whether it is there or not. Example: if, when I look at you, I believe you don't love me I will experience "You don't love me!" This does not mean you don't love me. It means, subjectively, I will only experience my belief and thus experience "You don't love me!" This is the self-organizing aspect of apart-(icle) or I-dentity. The I-dentity part-(icle) keeps itself mass-like and solid by continually perceiving reality as re-enforcing its beliefs. This is only subjective. I do not create "not loving me" in you. I only create my subjective experience of "You don't love me!" Hence, I create my own subjective reality!

In cognitive therapy this is called "mind reading." Simply put, if I believe nobody likes me, I project that you don't like me, and then I act as if this mind reading were the truth. Often times, people as children develop this "cognitive distortion" as a way to handle their parental situation. Mind-reading Mommy's or Daddy's wants could certainly help a child to please them and survive. The child learned that mind reading and pleasing an alcoholic or abusive parent might be a way to "keep the peace." Unfortunately, as the child becomes an adult he takes this mind reading with him on automatic. The adult, with this mechanism running, will mind read, unknowingly, the present-time situation, as if it were the threatening past.

Many clients have told me that, "Nobody likes me" or "My husband/wife doesn't love me." They feel that way even if friends like them or their partners act and verbally interact with love. Why? Because the observer, once they create "Nobody loves me," will filter out all else and even make "Nobody Loves me" their subjec-

i/ve reality, as mentioned in Chapter V. Once a part-(icle) I-dentity becomes that defined and solidified, no information contrary to its belief structure can get in!!!

This is very different than New Age thinkers who believe that we bring to ourselves "external" conditions to re-enforce our belief structure. We are saying in Quantum Psychology that the observer sources its own internal subjective experience, not the internal subjective experience of another. Let me give an example from the first chapter of Trances People Live.

"If I say, "I like you," you may create any number of responses: (1) That's nice; (2) He didn'treally mean it;" (3) "If he only knew what I was really like he wouldn't feel that way; (4) I wonder what he wants from me. (Wolinsky, 1991:3)

Here the observer is sourcing his/her internal, subjective responses to a particular person saying "I like you." Many New Age thinkers might say, "Why did I create that person to say, I like you," or "What lessons am I suppose to learn from them," etc. This is what we call super-source. Super-source is imagining that you are sourcing (creating) someone else's experience. This, of course, is an "age-regressed" position that comes from childhood. In psychological terms it would be called "infantile grandiosity," whereby the child believes it makes mother or father feel good or bad, or that he/ she is responsible for Mom or Dad's experience. As a possible scenario, the baby is lying in its crib and feels cold. Mom comes and puts a blanket on. She/he wants to get picked up. Dad comes and picks the child up. She/he is hungry. Somebody comes to feed her/ him. The baby decides something like, "Through my thoughts or feelings I can bring people to me to give me what I need. I create Mom/Dad coming." This, of course, is easily re-enforced by Mom/ Dad saying, "You made me feel angry."

This is the food for obsessive thinking. Let's imagine that the child is hungry and several times the Mom/Dad doesn't awake to feed the child immediately. The baby thinks, "Well since my thoughts created them coming before, if I think harder, I can get them to come and give me what I need. Maybe I should see (visualize) them coming to me giving me what I want. This is called primary process in psychoanalytic terminology and is so basic that it overlays into many areas in our lives.

In this age-regressed grandiose state, which is a trance, people feel they are responsible for what other people feel, think or do. Although volumes have been written on co-dependence, suffice to say for now, that the observer (you) sources his/her own subjective experience, not someone else's reaction to you. Often in workshops, I'll say something like, "Ihave no ideahow subjectively you are creating me inside yourselves. I must say however, when I gave up trying to control how other people created me in their subjective experience, I felt much freer. Because I no longer spent my energy trying to get people to see me a certain way, I was able to allow people to have whatever experience they were having of me." People have I-dentities which resist another's subjective creation. For example, a women of 45 I was working with was still "taking care" of mom who was needy and dependent. I asked her, "Are you willing to allow your mother to have her pain?" She said, "No." This is where the therapy must go. Why is her age-regressed I-dentity resisting her mothers' subjective creation of pain?

Another client, an attorney, always felt people thought he wasn't smart. The question and session dealt with his resistance to the possibility (mind-reading) that others were creating him subjectively as "not smart." He had a deep resistance to others' subjective creation. To over compensate he tried hard to be smart; rather than allowing other people to have their subjective experience of him.

This grandiosity leads to blaming oneself for external events, or trying to re-frame unpleasant external events into "lessons."

Quantum Psychology is suggesting an inner focus, in which you notice the observer and what he/she creates as made of the same essential substance—no blame, no lessons, no reasons, no purpose, no judgement, no evaluation or significance, no shame. Emptiness results in organizing or condensing itself into form, form de-condensing or de-constructing itself into emptiness.

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